Hello and welcome,
My name is William and I live in Scotland, UK.
I created this website for two reasons. The first being an ongoing reminder that I do not suffer from paruresis any more, and the second reason is to recommend the two products to you that helped me.
A bit about me…
I remember the first time I went to the toilet at primary school when I was 5 years old. I went in for a pee at the urinals when just as I was about to go another boy walked in and stood beside me. It made me feel uncomfortable, I didn’t like this feeling so I moved around the corner to the other urinal (there was 2 in my school’s toilet).
At high school, from the age of 12-16 I remember always using the cubicles to go for a pee as again I felt uncomfortable using the urinals.
From the ages of 16 until my late 20s going out drinking with friends, socialising and partying etc got harder to do as my paruresis took a stronger hold, until it got to the stage where being asked to go out for a drink with my friends would always send a wave of gut-wrenching anxiety through me. Sometimes I didn’t go, but most of the time I did and tried to cope with it the best I could.
My worst experience was at a soccer match (the only major [we call it football in Scotland] game I ever went to). We went for a few pints of beer in a local bar near the soccer pitch. Soon, I needed go to the toilet. I was bursting, but was too afraid to go as it was so busy. Then at the game during half time I joined the massive queue for the men’s, but when I got to the front, standing there in a line of about 20 other guys, absolutely dying for a pee, it would not happen and I had to walk away. The rest is a blur…
As time moved on and I settled down and had a family I didn’t need to worry so much as I wasn’t going out as often, but it was still there and it still caused issues. Then one day I decided to check the Internet to see what I could find on the subject. Using search terms such as ‘I can’t pee in public’ and ‘shy bladder’ – a phrase I heard someone else use one time. To my amazement I discovered it had a medical name, ‘Paruresis’, and that others had the same problem. I discovered forums and was shocked to find out that women suffered from it too. I thought it was just a guy’s problem until then.
At least I could name what I suffered from and gained some comfort knowing I wasn’t alone in the world, but it was still my embarrassing secret – I hadn’t told a soul until my discovery online. I then told my wife about it, showing her the forums to prove that others had it too.
I’m forty something now and I am not bothered by paruresis any more, but as I still had trouble urinating in certain places such as work toilets and at social outings I needed help.
The first thing I found helpful on the internet was Barry McDonagh’s Panic Away system. I got it after reading the reviews and testimonials. The techniques used to overcome my anxieties were amazingly powerful. It helped me get much, much closer to overcoming my shy bladder. At least I could now understand, accept and overcome my anxieties, I just needed a plan of attack – an, ‘OK, now what do I do?’
Some weeks later I found Rich Presta’s The Paruresis Treatment System. This is where I found my plan of attack! Along with Rich’s techniques for overcoming anxieties, which served to back up Barry’s Panic Away system, whilst adding his own style, it gave me an action plan. Something for me to follow, giving me the baby steps I needed to face my fears.
The therapy I needed required me to take action, and the thought of taking action caused more anxiety, but with these two systems under my belt, I was able to move onwards and upwards until I was at last free from the grip of the anxieties and worries that my paruresis caused.
This is the reason why I wholeheartedly recommend these systems to you – because it fixed my problem and my life is far better for it.
From one ex-paruresis sufferer I recommend you get these systems. The benefits are immense – you just need to ask yourself what it would mean to you to be free of paruresis.
I now have the strength within me to go for a pee regardless of where I am, and I have built this website to recommend them to you. I wish you all the best and if you do what is asked of you, you will have all the courage and strength you need too.
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- pauresis and back problems